Sunday, March 4, 2012

Promises! Promises!

No distrust made [Abraham] waver concerning the promise of God, but he grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God, being fully convinced that God was able to do what God had promised. (Romans 4.20-21)

The Debate Team

A close friend in recovery was explaining how the tone and emphasis vary in different 12-step groups he attends. One of them, he said, spends a lot of time on Step 3: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God.” In their discussions, a phrase he didn’t understand at first kept popping up. “I decided to quit the debate team,” they’d say. I asked what they meant. “They figured out they weren’t going to make any progress as long as they argued with themselves about whether or not God exists, and wondered if God really cared about them,” he said. As long as they tried to intellectualize faith in God, they’d run in circles and couldn’t get well. “There are a lot of folks, with and without dependency issues, who need to quit the debate team,” I remarked. My friend nodded, “Yep. If you’re waiting for answers, you’ll be in a rut. At some point, you have to stop arguing and start accepting.”

His comment reminded me of something our pastor said recently: “God promises to hold our questions, to stand with us in the gray.” But we must first believe that, if we’re to know God’s presence in our questions. Without that little faith leap, our inner debates will continue. The arguments won’t go away. The doubts won’t ease. Nowhere in Scripture are we told—nor do we see—that God despises questions. Nearly every great hero in Scripture, from Abraham to Jesus and the Apostles, wants answers that never come. Even when God does reply, the answers aren’t what the askers are looking for.

When God calls Moses to lead Israel, the tongue-tied shepherd asks, “How can I convince the people to follow me?” God says, “Tell them, ‘I AM has sent you.” (Exodus 3.14) When the angel informs Mary she will bear the Christ Child, she asks, “How is this possible?” The angel explains, “The Holy Spirit will come on you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you.” (Luke 1.35) When Paul asks why God doesn’t relieve the “thorn in his flesh,” God says, “My grace is sufficient.” (2 Corinthians 12.9) Time after time, we hear people whom God uses ask God for answers; time and again, we hear God say, “You’re gonna have to trust Me with this.” In Love Wins, Rob Bell writes, “There is no question that Jesus cannot handle, no discussion too volatile, no issue too dangerous.” Questions don’t scare God. They scare us and until we learn to live with them, we’ll be stranded on the debate team, making no progress toward wholeness.

Hoping Against Hope

If faith in a God Who promises to hold our questions seems like a stretch, this next bit may be a mind-bender. As a rule, God makes promises that raise new questions we can’t answer. In Sunday’s Old and New Testament readings, we revisit the story of God’s covenant with Abraham, a 99-year-old whose elderly wife, Sarah, is barren. “I will make you exceedingly fruitful; and I will make nations of you, and kings shall come from you,” God vows in Genesis 17.6 Unfortunately, the chosen passage stops short of Abraham’s question. In verse 17, he laughs as he asks, “Will a son be born to a 100-year-old man? Will Sarah give birth at 90?” All God says is, “Yes,” without explaining how it will be possible. It’s a promise riddled with riddles, yet Abraham is prescient enough to resist arguing its impossibilities. He quits the debate team. He accepts God’s promise as is. And God honors it.

In Romans 4, Paul retells Abraham’s story, writing, “Hoping against hope, he believed that he would become ‘the father of many nations’… He did not weaken in faith when he considered his own body, which was already as good as dead (for he was about a hundred years old), or when he considered the barrenness of Sarah’s womb. No distrust made him waver concerning the promise of God, but he grew strong in his faith as he gave glory to God, being fully convinced that God was able to do what God had promised.” (v18-21)

Hoping against hope is one of those oblique phrases Paul likes to use when he wants us to figure something out on our own. God’s covenant with Abraham is a hopeless proposition. He and Sarah have tried for decades to get pregnant with no luck. To appease Abraham’s desire for a child, Sarah permitted him to sleep with her maid and suffered the humiliation of watching her husband rear an out-of-wedlock son. Of all the promises God could have made, God bases the covenant with Abraham on the most hopeless, emotionally charged aspect of his and Sarah’s union. Unanswerable questions had to perplex them. (When Abraham tells Sarah about God’s promise, she laughs, too.) Yet Abraham hopes against hope. He sets arguments aside. “No distrust made him waver,” Paul says.

Unsettling

All of my life I’ve heard people say, “God said it, I believe it, and that settles it.” If only that were so. More often than not, believing what God says can be very unsettling. At some point, we have to turn from hopelessness and cling to hope that makes no earthly sense. At some point, we have to understand we may never understand. Like Moses, we answer God’s call on the strength of Who God is. Like Mary, we trust the Holy Spirit is working in us to give birth to something miraculous. Like Paul, we rely on God’s grace. And, alas, sometimes like Jesus, we hang in torment and cry, “Why have You forsaken me?” And yet, like Abraham, we also recognize trying to figure God out is our surest way to get in God’s way. “He grew strong in his faith,” Paul says, “as he gave glory to God, being fully convinced God was able to do what God promised.” That’s how we quit the debate team—realizing our inability to understand has no bearing on God’s ability to do what God promises.

Promises! Promises! The Bible overflows with them, and with them come, Questions! Questions! that rarely provide Answers! Answers! We have to learn to live with that, to accept that just because God says it and we believe it doesn’t always settle it. My friend shared another statement from one of his groups that helps greatly, I think, with how we can learn to live with God’s promises, our questions, and the absence of answers. One of the participants said, “Let God be with you now. Don’t drag God back into yesterday or push God into tomorrow. God with you now is enough.” God promises to hold our questions and stand with us in the gray. That’s a promise too wonderful to debate.

More often than not, God’s promises raise questions we can’t answer, leaving us little choice but to trust God to hold our questions and stand with us in the gray.

Podcast link: http://straightfriendly.podbean.com/2012/03/04/promises-promises/.

4 comments:

Cathy, apprentice alchemist said...

Love this post. I can speak to the truth of trusting in God, standing in the gray with us and holding our questions.
When my world was turned upside down following a significant traumatic brain injury, I couldn't do much of anything. When I reached a place where I could read, Psalm 103 was my daily reading. It was a constant reminder.My trust in Godde's promises was what allowed me to rehab beyond the expectations of the medical professionals.
I've read Rob Bell's book once when it first came out, I think I need to reread this again. :>)Poor short term memory from TBI :>)

Sherry Peyton said...

Hoping against hope.....I shall treasure that statement and live with it today. It is such an uplifting phrase and one so full of promise, so much comfort. For it is always about hope. That is what the unbeliever fails to see. They think it not worth their time or energy because it is not proven. It is empty wasted time bent on grasping at diaphanous material. But it is glorious when accepted as "enough". It lightens all burdens, and brightens every thought. Hoping against hope.
Thank you dear friend.
Blessings, Sherry

pam lee-miller said...

great is the Mystery of God and for me....the Mystery is filled with all kinds of questions that cannot be answered........
growing up in a fundamental Baptist home with a minister for a father--well, i was taught that a "girl" ought to keep her mouth shut and not ask all those questions where science intertwines with theological thought......I remember the first time in my southern hometown, when I was the only person in my Advanced Biology class to raise my hand to say I believed in the theory of evolution--talk about a scandal--the preachers kid believes in evolution--well that went over well in my home, though my dad did agree to read about the theory of evolution, but never did have the debate with me.

As my understanding of God has grown, it now easily encompasses the span of the Divine, who meets us each in our own little box of understanding..........I can let you stay where you are, knowing God meets you with your own unique questions and allows you to wrestle...

I remember....one day in seminary while studying the MLK's concept of personlism, well---I allowed myself to continue asking questions until I had no more....as I got down to the bottom the question I let myself wrestle with was: "Is there a God---and if so, why I believe in IT"

what came to me was--I believe because of an intutitve knowing I cannot explain---and even on days when I have to pray--"help me in my unbelief"--knowing that God loves me and wrestles with me to help me grow----is a wonderful thing....
God becomes more evident for me in the questions...and that is a beautiful thing..happy Sunday
Tim.............hope the Sabbath grabs you with something extraordinary in the midst of your ordinary day...blessings. p

Tim said...

Cathy, your witness is light to me, to all of us--particularly at times when we exaggerate our woes and throw up our hands. I can understand how Psalm 103 sustained you; forget not God's benefits, a God Who heals, redeems, lifts... Who stands with us in the gray! Thank you for sharing this with us.

Sherry, the debaters vaunt their intellectual capacity, yet I'm always overcome with compassion for them, as they lack the elasticity to hope. I think of Paul's statement, "Without hope, I would be the most miserable of all men." Hope against hope keep our hope intact. It is, as you say, always "enough."

Pam, folks like you and I who have migrated from the concrete, black-and-white, never-doubt end of the theological spectrum enter the world of questions and mysteries and breathe fresh, amazing air. And, as you say, once we acclimate ourselves to this world, we're able to wrestle freely and honestly with our questions--and then to discover the extent of God's love for us, in that what we can't prove, we feel, and what we feel we believe. It is a gift beyond measure!

Many blessings to all of you. You have blessed all of us mightily by enriching the thoughts that I tried to convey.

Tim