Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.
1 Peter 5.7 (New King James)
A Hard Lesson
My first real job was teaching in a Christian high school down the street from my best friend’s apartment. During the first year, horrible tragedy struck his family. His three-year-old daughter lay in critical condition. His wife was confined to a mental health facility. The spiraling bills kept him working to maintain their healthcare coverage. Despite unbearable grief and exhaustion, day in and day out, he drove himself to spend valuable time with his daughter and wife.
Being closest to him—in distance and spirit—I tended to his needs: laundry, housekeeping, cooking, etc. Soon the wear and tear started to show. One day, the principal dropped by my class. “I know you care for him and his family,” she said, “but you assumed this burden. Could you be doing too much on your own instead of trusting God’s grace for him?” She was spot-on. I had all but abandoned the young lives entrusted to me to compensate for losses that weren’t mine. My motives were solid, but my methods were shaky.
Do First Things First
In Revelation 2, God expresses admiration for the Ephesian church's deeds, hard work, and perseverance. "Yet I hold this against you," He says. "You have forsaken your first love. Repent and do the things you did at first." Before diving into someone else’s troubles, we should assess its costs. Certain people and responsibilities have been placed in our care. They can't go untended while we lavish care on others.
Don’t Count on People
Perhaps worse than not caring is caring on purpose—thinking if we help others, we can count on them when we’re in trouble. That won’t always happen. We offer care expecting nothing in return, knowing help is always available to us. In Psalm 46.1, we hear “God is an ever-present help in trouble.” Count on that.
Do the Right Thing
We call people who permit others to hurt themselves enablers, contributors to the problem. Romans 14.16 advises, “Do not allow what you consider good to be spoken of as evil.” We can’t always steer those we love from harmful behaviors. Yet we’re not caring if we tacitly endorse their actions with indulgence. Encouraging what’s right regularly means discouraging what’s wrong.
Don’t Work Solo
Caring often feels like lonely work. But keep in mind we’re never alone. As Peter reminds us, Jesus cares for us. Care is really a three-person process that puts us in the middle. When we pick up someone else’s burdens, we don’t hang onto them (as I did). We cast them on Christ. The finest way to care for others is introducing Christ to them and their problems.
(Tomorrow: Resisting Temptation)